When a couple breaks up after months of being together , one can experience a deep sadness. Perhaps it’s safe to say that most people want to be happy.Being with your soul mate is happiness and all that feelings can’t just go away that easy.Other thing to think about is that if he actually is / was your soul mate you wouldn’t have broken up.You would still be together. I think after realising what was and what your feelings were you can proceed with your life.To do that you can write a letter to your ex , it’s a method of saying everything you ever wanted but never could, you can display your thoughts and all your messed up feelings.And after doing all that you will feel much better and you can burn that letter or tear it apart.After that you can actually enjoy being here in this big, crazy, confusing world. Too many people struggle with love/ex/sadness . Speaking from personal experience being in love is meeting someone who is unlike any other.You could talk to this person for hours and not feel bored.You can tell them things and they won’t judge you.And they won’t leave you! The other ones are just people that need to pass through your life for a reason – to teach you something important.I had so many bad relationships and it was hard and there were a lot of tears but at the end of the day they weren’t the ones I needed by my side. And that is what’s happening to you. You don’t need them! You need someone that will cherish you and love for who you are.
People are so lonely much of their lives that they fail to recognize toxicity in their relationships. Negative, selfish and untrustworthy people do their friends more harm than good just by being around them.I have to say being in a bad friendship is also toxic. Be really careful when you choose your friends,boyfriend/girlfriend.You must be very picky and skeptical when getting close to people and allowing strangers into your life. Not everyone has good intentions.So think about that.
You can also try and write a letter to your ex best friend.It will be helpful too.It’s normal to stop being a friend to someone because they or you changed.Everyone grows and starts to think and want different things in life.You can be just thankful for the memories.
When I want to feel better and to shake off my sad thoughts I start writing – poetry,stories,essays or even a letter.
In conclusion,I will say that happiness can most certainly be kept – and not just momentary happiness but true, long-lasting happiness, which is not something that just comes to a person.You have to work for it and most imprortantly you must let yourself to be happy !
-Absurdly Evil 20 something